Jared Tawney, LMFT • Whitworth University Lecturer • WA & ID

Stronger relationships
start with honest work

Couples therapy, family therapy, and individual counseling delivered through secure telehealth across eastern Washington and northern Idaho, including Spokane, Coeur d’Alene, and surrounding communities.

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Jared Tawney, LMFT

About

Therapy grounded
in purpose

I’m Jared Tawney, a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) serving clients across eastern Washington and northern Idaho, including Spokane, Coeur d’Alene, Post Falls, and surrounding communities, via telehealth. I earned my Master’s degree from Whitworth University’s Marriage and Family Therapy program and am trained in both Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Gottman Method couples therapy.

I work with clients who feel disconnected and stuck in negative cycles: people seeking practical ways to improve dialogue, resolve conflicts, and rebuild trust. I also work with individuals focusing on behavior change and emotion regulation, and with families designing therapy activities that build security in relationships.

Beyond clinical practice, I serve as a Lecturer in the Psychology Department at Whitworth University and am available for speaking engagements on relationships, mental health, and resilience.

WA & ID
Licensed States
LMFT
License #LF61526523
Whitworth
University Lecturer

The impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way.

Marcus Aurelius — Meditations

Services

How I can help

Couples Therapy

I help couples who feel disconnected and stuck in negative cycles find practical ways to improve dialogue, resolve conflicts, and rebuild trust. Through corrective experiences and intentional practice, couples learn strategies to foster understanding and rebuild emotional connection.

EFT & Gottman Method

Family Therapy

In family therapy, I design therapy activities inspired by the family itself, building security in family relationships through exercises the family has shaped. When one part of a family system struggles, everyone feels it. Therapy helps identify the stuck patterns and create a healthier dynamic.

Emotionally Focused Therapy

Individual Therapy

Individual sessions focus on behavior change and emotion regulation. Whether you’re working through anxiety, stress, life transitions, trauma, or simply want to align your actions with your values. I help build psychological flexibility and move toward a more intentional life.

Acceptance & Commitment Therapy

Approach

Evidence-based methods,
real-world results

Two proven therapeutic frameworks adapted to your specific situation.

EFT & Gottman

Emotionally Focused Therapy & Gottman Method

EFT identifies the negative cycles that keep partners stuck (attack and withdraw, unmet needs, missed signals) and replaces them with secure, responsive connection. Combined with Gottman Method, I help couples connect through corrective experiences, not communication tricks, but understanding what drives the conflict so you can reach each other.

ACT

Acceptance & Commitment Therapy

ACT develops your ability to hold difficult thoughts and feelings without being controlled by them, and to take committed action toward what you value most. Rather than fighting your internal experience, ACT builds a life that matters to you. Practical, present-focused, and built for people who want to function better.

Areas of Expertise

Issues I work with

Marital & Premarital Family Conflict Relationship Issues Infidelity Divorce Anxiety Stress Trauma & PTSD Faith & Attachment Parenting Life Transitions Anger Management Behavioral Issues Spirituality Life Coaching

Insurance & Fees

Making therapy accessible

I accept most major insurance plans. Sessions are $150 for self-pay clients. All sessions conducted via Headway, a secure HIPAA-compliant telehealth platform. If you have insurance, Headway will verify your benefits and communicate your copay before your first session.

Aetna Premera Blue Cross Regence Cigna / Evernorth Optum Ambetter Carelon Behavioral Health Horizon BCBS

Visa, Mastercard, American Express, and Discover accepted.

It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare; it is because we do not dare that they are difficult.

Seneca

University Teaching

Whitworth University
Psychology Department

As a Lecturer in Whitworth’s Psychology Department, I bring clinical experience directly into the classroom. My courses bridge the gap between academic research and real-world practice.

PY 101

Introductory Psychology

Scientific examination of human behavior: biological psychology, development, perception, consciousness, learning, memory, motivation, emotion, disorders, therapy, social psychology, and human diversity.

Undergraduate

PY 358

Psychopathology

Study of behavior categorized as mental illness or mental disorder. Introduction to the DSM and treatment, examining genetic, neurochemical, family, and social relationship factors.

Undergraduate • Upper Division

PY 227

Personality & Individual Differences

Historical and current perspectives on personality development, assessment, and change. Dimensions including gender, culture, intellectual ability, and genetic composition.

Undergraduate

Graduate

Counseling Theory

Major theoretical orientations in counseling, both historical and recent: psychoanalytic, behavioral, humanistic/existential approaches and their clinical applications.

Graduate Program

Coming Spring 2027

Critical Issues

An upcoming course exploring current critical issues at the intersection of psychology, ethics, and contemporary society.

Graduate Program • New

We suffer more often in imagination than in reality.

Seneca — Letters from a Stoic

Clinical Supervision

Supervision for LMFTAs

I provide clinical supervision for Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Associates (LMFTAs) working toward full licensure in Washington State. My supervision draws on EFT, Gottman, and ACT frameworks with an emphasis on clinical skill development, professional identity formation, and licensure exam preparation.

EFT & Gottman Focus

Supervision grounded in evidence-based couples therapy models, helping associates develop confidence in emotionally focused and Gottman-informed work.

Licensure Pathway

Structured supervision designed to meet Washington State licensure requirements, including direct client hours, documentation, and professional development milestones.

Exam Prep & Accountability

Pre-licensure exam preparation support, guided study, and accountability built into the supervision package to keep you on track toward full licensure.

Telehealth Format

All supervision conducted via secure video, providing flexible scheduling for associates building their practices across Washington and Idaho.

Email About Supervision Call (509) 400-5025

Insights

From the practice

Latest Post →

Couples

The Pursue-Withdraw Cycle: Why Your Arguments Never Get Resolved

The most common pattern I see in couples therapy isn’t about the topic of the fight. It’s about the dance beneath it.
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Stoic Wisdom

What the Stoics Got Right About Emotional Regulation

Ancient philosophy meets modern psychotherapy. How ACT and Stoicism share a surprising common ground on managing difficult emotions.
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Men’s Issues

Attachment Theory and Personal Faith: How Belief Shapes Our Bonds

The way we attach to God often mirrors the way we attach to people. Understanding this connection can transform both your relationships and your spiritual life.
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Couples & EFT

How to Know If Couples Therapy Is Right for You

Most couples who end up in my office waited too long to get there. Here’s a more useful frame than “how bad does it have to get.”

How much better to heal than seek revenge from injury.

Seneca — On Anger

Reviews

Trusted by clients
& colleagues

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Client and colleague reviews are on their way. In the meantime, you’re welcome to read more about the approach, or reach out directly with any questions.

Get in Touch
WA & ID Licensed States
EFT Trained Therapist
Gottman Method Trained
Whitworth University Lecturer
Headway Insurance Network

Speaking & Training

Bringing research
to the room

As a practicing clinician and university lecturer, I bring both academic rigor and clinical experience to every presentation. Available for conferences, workshops, corporate events, and university engagements.

01The Science of Secure Relationships
02Men, Vulnerability & Emotional Intelligence
03Building Resilient Families in a Digital Age
04ACT in Practice: Values-Driven Living
05Discipline, Purpose & Mental Health

Book a speaker

Available for keynotes, workshops, trainings, and panels. Send an inquiry and I’ll follow up within two business days.

Inquiry received. I’ll be in touch within two business days.

How It Works

Getting started is simple

Reach Out

Send a message or schedule a free 15-minute phone consultation. I’ll respond within one business day.

Book via Headway

Sessions are booked and conducted through Headway, a secure HIPAA-compliant platform that handles scheduling, billing, and insurance verification.

Start the Work

From the first session, we’ll establish clear goals and begin building a path forward — together.

Waste no more time arguing about what a good man should be. Be one.

Marcus Aurelius — Meditations

Free Guide — Ascalon Counseling

Breaking the Pursue–Withdraw Cycle

A practical guide to the most common pattern in couples conflict: what it is, why it persists, and how to start shifting it.

Jared Tawney, LMFT

Free Resource

Recognize the cycle.
Change the dance.

Most couples in conflict aren’t fighting about dishes or money. They’re stuck in a pattern neither one chose. This guide explains the pursue–withdraw cycle in plain language: what drives it, why it persists, and where to start.

Why the same argument keeps happening
What pursuer and withdrawer are actually afraid of
Five concrete steps to start shifting the pattern
Clinical citations and a full reference list
Download the Guide — Free ↓

No sign-up required. 8-page PDF, free to share.

Get Started

Ready to do the work?

A free 15-minute phone consultation gives you the chance to ask questions, see if we’re a good fit, and understand how therapy can help. To book, use Headway directly. For general inquiries, use the form below.

Phone (509) 400-5025
Email jared@ascaloncounseling.com
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Licensed In Washington & Idaho
Session Rate $150 self-pay • Insurance via Headway
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